We all worry about what other people think. Whether we like it or not, our lives are surrounded by the opinions of others. As much as you try and convince yourself that it doesn’t affect you, it does. It is human nature to want to be liked and respected by those that surround you. I hate to say it, but if you constantly base decisions off of other peoples opinions, you will most likely find yourself unhappy and lost down the road. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t think that worrying about what other people think is a bad thing. It is clearly necessary to a certain extent. But, it is important to find a balance between simply being a people pleaser and finding who you are.
Clearly none of us know exactly who we are, or life would be pretty boring. We are constantly presented with conflicts and controversial scenarios in each of our lives. It is our job to figure out what we believe about those situations, in order to eventually build a strong belief system. It is extremely easy to follow the majority without looking into the fine details and building an opinion of our own.
We are all culprits of answering a question in the form of a question. You could be caught doing it while talking to your boss, answering a question in class, being questioned by your friends, or simply trying to offer your opinion to your family. Unfortunately, this says a lot about how much you believe in yourself as a person. I’m here to try and break you of this habit. BE CONFIDENT. Answer questions confidently and firmly stand behind your beliefs. If you don’t have an opinion on a particular topic, then own up to it and do something about it. Research, read, watch, ask..do something and make your own opinion before you let the opinions of others take over who you are.
I have always been a strong person. But, I will be the first to say that I have always worried about what other people think. Ever since my life hit a small speed bump, I have realized how important it is to be confident in who you are. Instead of trying to give people the answer they want to hear, I try my hardest to answer questions genuinely. If I don’t know what I think about a certain situation, I take the time to absorb the facts and figure out exactly what I believe. Of course I don’t know exactly who I am. But, I will say that I’m happier today than I ever have been..despite the circumstances.
Bottom line is..
Don’t let something bad happen to you for you to realize that you are an amazing person. Be confident in who you are and flaunt your bad ass ways.
We all have it. A gut, intuition, instinct..whatever you prefer to call it, we all have it. This tiny little thing inside of us that tells us what we believe, whether we like it or not. Each and every one of us is faced with hundreds of decisions to make on a daily basis. I don’t know about you, but I’m not the best at making decisions. In the past two months, I’ve made more decisions than any 20-year-old ever should. Aside from all of the people that have supported me so far, I can thank my gut for where I am today. Here are a couple of examples of when this tiny little thing came in handy..
The first night I had horrible back pain, I knew something was wrong. Despite taking a muscle relaxer and pain medication, the pain only worsened. Two ER visits later, I was diagnosed with bronchitis and had apparently torn a muscle in my back from coughing. As an athlete, (or so I like to think) I know what muscle pain feels like. About a week had gone by of minimal sleep, (and studying on narcotics) and the pain just wasn’t getting any better. The minute I woke up feeling tingling in my toes, I didn’t care what the doctors were telling me..there was no way I had only torn a muscle. Loooong story short, I followed my gut. I made the appointments, saw who I needed to see, and found the problem.
Our society places doctors and medical practitioners on a throne where no mistakes can be made. In reality, everyone makes mistakes. I’m not writing this to blame those doctors for the nerve damage I still have in my legs. I’m writing this to tell you that if you ever have to make a difficult decision, listen to your gut. Because honestly, I probably would be paralyzed right now if I hadn’t.
The neurosurgeon looked at my mother and me and told us that this “thing” in my spine needed to removed in the next thirty minutes. Immediately my mother started rambling off..Who is this doctor? Do we need a second opinion? Why does it need to be removed tonight? ..all normal questions that I wasn’t allowing myself to ask. I think that was the first time in my entire life where I knew what was best for myself before she did. To this day I will never understand how I looked at my mother and told her I would be okay. I guess you could say I lied to her face, because clearly I had no idea if that was true. With the surgeon waiting for the go ahead, I told my mother exactly what she needed to hear. Thirty minutes later, I was in Bora Bora (as I informed my anesthesiologist) enjoying a margarita with my feet in the sand.